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What’s the Hurry?

In college, I had a roommate from Wyoming. I loved her to pieces, but when it came to walking, she was Slow with a capital S. I was a “city” girl, destination-bound, with a quickness in my step. I walked with purpose, to get there fast. She, on the other hand, bounced her way down the sidewalk, in part I think, to irritate me. It worked.

My daughter is just at the age where she loves stepping out for a walk down our quiet little street. Together, we shuffle across the uneven pavement and explore nature’s toy box. Yesterday we watched the birds darting from tree to tree. We listened to water gurgling through the sewer. We pointed to big, fluffy clouds and cars passing by. We picked a few flowers (Don’t tell the neighbors.) and fingered the veins on leaves. We stomped across a patch of rocks and giggled as they crunched under our toes.

It was a grand buffet for the senses.

Maybe the tortoise is onto something. For years, I’d thought that slow was synonymous with purposeless. These days, I’d argue that the opposite is true. Because when you hurry about, you miss stuff. Stuff that stirs your blood and awakens your soul. You know, if we walked at the pace of a child, we’d see so much more of the world.

Okay, Miss Wyoming, you were right. Want to go for a walk? You lead.

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Go Green Expo NYC

Go Green.  Go Recycle.  Go sustainable.  Go solar powered.  Go this, go that.  It’s everywhere.  This weekend I checked out the Go Green Expo in NYC, and I’m back to share some of the highlights!  

Did you know that Alka Seltzer cleans toilets?  Or that lemon and hydrogen peroxide are natural alternatives to bleach?  Featured speaker, Julie Edelman of The Accidental Housewife, put an interesting spin on being green.  Here’s the good news:  It’s about “being green enough,” she said.  ”Light green.”  Okay, I can do that.  Edelman offered some practical, fun advice on greening your cleaning.  I particularly liked her Alka Seltzer jingle: “Plop, plop.  Fizz, fizz.  Away will go the poop and whizz.”  

LittleChickieWear had adorable 100% organic cotton onesies and tees:

IAGmedia displayed DVDs, CDs, books, and more that teach kids about caring for our environment.  Let’s Go Chipper: Into the Great Outdoors was an iParenting Media Award Winner!  


Good Food Gardens displayed a live outdoor garden system that supports healthy, eco-conscious living.  I WANT ONE!  These gardens promote family cooperation and interdependency.  And with access to their own fresh produce, children develop healthy habits for life . . .love it!  


SodaStream distributed free samples for soda and sparkling water lovers.  It was a delicious alternative to the bottles and cans “that are suffocating our planet.”  In fact, the average American consumes 600 cans or bottles of soda and sparkling water each year.  SodaStream boasts less sugar and sugar-free options . . .with fizz.  Santa, please add this to my list!  
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The Staycation Report: 3 Things I Learned

1. Planning is Key. Spontaneity is the spice of life… in an ideal world. When you take a vacation, there’s a lot of prep involved- packing, stopping the mail, taking out the trash, yada yada yada. In some ways, it’s no different when you go on a staycation, even if it’s only for the weekend.   

Meal planning allowed us to stock the fridge and steer clear of last minute trips to the supermarket for one last thing (I’m famous for that!). Rachel Ray’s Make Your Own Burrito Bar” recipe was a big hit. Yes . . .we ate out too (ahh…no dishes), and left room for spontaneity; my sweet tooth couldn’t resist stopping at Ben & Jerry’s for some mint chocolate chunk ice cream. Twice. But the second time- totally planned.

Often, the weather dictates how you’ll spend the day, take it or leave it. Thursday turned out to be a beautiful afternoon, one Tim fondly referred to as a Ferris Bueller day. After visiting the Children’s Museum of Manhattan, we strolled through Central Park and people-watched over a packed lunch. Plan B involved sleeping bags, popcorn, and Mary Poppins. While that would have been fine, nothing compares to breathing in some fresh, spring air!   

2. Get Unplugged! We live in a fast-paced, impatient, dot-mom world. Phone calls, text messages, emails, downloads. They’re all nice, in moderation. The problem is that we don’t moderate. I wanted to eliminate these distractions and be more attentive to what matters most in my life . . .spending time with the people I love. Besides, someday I’ll never wish that I’d spent more time on my computer. Eat more ice cream? Maybe. (Hence the two trips to Ben & Jerry’s.)   

I did tell friends and family about our staycation, just as I would if we were vacationing. Yes, in case of an emergency, I could still be reached via cell phone. Yes, people still called. No, it wasn’t an emergency. At one point, we did check messages. Big mistake. The bottom line: it’s uncomfortable being disconnected, especially when you’re lying on your own couch. I think it actually takes practice, something I’m more than willing to work on. You know, the “stuff” was all still here when I got back. I didn’t miss much, if anything at all.   

3. Make it a Habit of Smelling the Roses. For me, the whole point of a staycation is to practice slowing down and to live well (which doesn’t require $$$) right in your own backyard. Every now and then, I think it’s important to break up the monotony and do something fun or different, inspiring or creative, whatever that means for you. My husband felt that this was definitely easier to do once we hopped in the car, destination bound. It was much more challenging to ignore the to-do list at home and to relax, or god-forbid, do nothing. We’re so accomplish-oriented; it’s a tough habit to break.   

Every adult speaks of how quickly children grow, and heck, I’m not about to miss these awesome years. My personality necessitates that I have to consciously put on blinders, carve out time, and create a space that offers enrichment of the soul. The flowers are on the table. At least that’s a start.  

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Time for a “Staycation”

Do you ever find yourself saying, “I need a vacation”? I do it all the time. But for many Americans, a vacation isn’t in the cards right now. We’re living in some topsy-turvy, scary economic times. Our 401k’s are worth half of what they were 2 years ago, the market wavers more than a moody teenage girl, and frankly, we don’t know who to trust.

The other day, as I was recycling my junk mail, I fell upon the idea of a “staycation,” vacationing at home. I think the idea of a vacation is more of a mindset than anything else. You don’t have to be reclining under a palm tree to achieve a sense of calm (although that sounds really nice right now). A vacation is about waking up at your leisure, lollygagging about, and voluntarily shirking your responsibilities and obligations in exchange for some good old fashion family fun. Thanks, Clark W. Griswold.
In the beginning of April, my husband has a week off from school, and we’ve decided to go on a staycation for two days. Actually, I think it’s going to be quite a challenge. Many people, myself included, actually have a hard time relaxing in their own homes. We say, “I’ll relax when the _____ is done.” And so, we never relax, because there is always something to be done. It’s so easy to get sucked into the distractions and send that one last email. For me, this staycation will be about no rushing, no schedules, and no doing. Just being. (That’s why we’re called human beings, not human doings.)
Here are some ideas for a family “staycation”:
  1. Turn off the TV and rent a Disney flick or go to the movies.
  2. Take a family bike ride or hike.
  3. Play a board game or a card game together.
  4. Eat out at your favorite restaurant.
  5. Go to a children’s museum, aquarium, science center, or zoo.
  6. Make an ice cream sundae buffet.
  7. Unplug the phone, the computer, and the telephone.
  8. Give everybody a break from chores and responsibilities.
  9. Fly kites in an open field.
  10. Dust off the sleeping bags and have a slumber party- ghost stories included!
I haven’t yet decided how my family is going to spend our two days. We’re going to fly by the seat of our pants, but definitely kick back and just enjoy one another.  And hey, I can light a coconut-scented candle and put on some Banana Boat sunscreen to give it that “beach vacation” feel.
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Managing Your Life: One Thing at a Time


Every time I blink, it seems that my daughter is another half-inch taller, learning and growing and discovering the world.  Life’s too short to miss out on pointing to the birds or “choo-chooing” when the train whistles through our town.  Still, it’s hard to ignore that little voice in my head that’s obsessing over dirty dishes, dirty toilets, and dirty laundry (Life would be so much sweeter without dirt!).  As a mom, it’s hard to find that middle ground without beating yourself up over the leftover scrambled eggs, now glued to the plate, from this morning’s breakfast.  

Sometimes my mental to-do lists are so long, that I do nothing.  I’m literally incapacitated by my seemingly insurmountable lists.  And so I ruminate, wishing I didn’t care so darn much about the unimportant stuff.  These days, I am learning to think smaller.  I recently discovered a one-item list notepad (Yup, that’s it!), and it’s absolutely perfect for a mom like me, not to mention a lot less daunting.  It reads, “I will do one thing today.” How liberating!  Now I can breathe.  The sun is shining.  The birds are singing.  I’m off to the park!  
Visit Pretty Bitter to order a pad for yourself.  You deserve to feel empowered!
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