Comments on: Honoring the Sovereignty of Our Children http://www.turnitupmom.com/parenting/honoring-the-sovereignty-of-our-children Turn Up the Music: a mindful, back-to-basics approach to parenting and life. Wed, 03 Mar 2010 04:43:32 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 By: Megan at Simple Kids http://www.turnitupmom.com/parenting/honoring-the-sovereignty-of-our-children/comment-page-1#comment-454 Megan at Simple Kids Tue, 07 Jul 2009 05:12:49 +0000 http://www.turnitupmom.com/?p=491#comment-454 "Let go of your attachment to expectation and be present to what is. Embrace the present with an open heart. " This is where I struggle! Attachment to my expectations of who my daughters are and who they are becoming . . . definitely an area I have to be mindful of. These are great thoughts and are from a perspective I had not before considered. “Let go of your attachment to expectation and be present to what is. Embrace the present with an open heart. ”

This is where I struggle! Attachment to my expectations of who my daughters are and who they are becoming . . . definitely an area I have to be mindful of.

These are great thoughts and are from a perspective I had not before considered.

]]> By: turnitupmom http://www.turnitupmom.com/parenting/honoring-the-sovereignty-of-our-children/comment-page-1#comment-439 turnitupmom Sun, 05 Jul 2009 01:18:24 +0000 http://www.turnitupmom.com/?p=491#comment-439 Mark, I absolutely agree that sovereignty is not about entitlement. Honoring who your child is does not negate the need for rules. From my experiences as a classroom teacher, I believe that children want and thrive from clear boundaries and expectations. Mark,

I absolutely agree that sovereignty is not about entitlement. Honoring who your child is does not negate the need for rules. From my experiences as a classroom teacher, I believe that children want and thrive from clear boundaries and expectations.

]]> By: Vanessa http://www.turnitupmom.com/parenting/honoring-the-sovereignty-of-our-children/comment-page-1#comment-437 Vanessa Sat, 04 Jul 2009 18:46:55 +0000 http://www.turnitupmom.com/?p=491#comment-437 Mary Jo, As usual, a very thought provoking post. I particularly liked the point about using empathy to respond to your children's problems rather than trying to solve them. The temptation to be a problem solver is often strong, but that response can end up sounding dismissive to the child. "Just do this..." It's a fine line, but remembering that sometimes just saying the words "I understand how you feel" may be all the child needs. Happy 4th! Vanessa Mary Jo,
As usual, a very thought provoking post. I particularly liked the point about using empathy to respond to your children’s problems rather than trying to solve them. The temptation to be a problem solver is often strong, but that response can end up sounding dismissive to the child. “Just do this…” It’s a fine line, but remembering that sometimes just saying the words “I understand how you feel” may be all the child needs.

Happy 4th!

Vanessa

]]> By: Mark http://www.turnitupmom.com/parenting/honoring-the-sovereignty-of-our-children/comment-page-1#comment-435 Mark Sat, 04 Jul 2009 12:38:53 +0000 http://www.turnitupmom.com/?p=491#comment-435 Hi Mary Jo, Based on second hand reports on Jon and Myla's kids, the greater/harder challenge for parents who want to honor sovereignty and nurture independence is to still hold the parenting role and reins pretty firmly. Otherwise, the kids too often end up pretty demanding and bratty with an overblown sense of unappealing entitlement. I don't expect that will be a problem for you or Tim. You're from New Jersey, afterall! ;-) Best, Mark Hi Mary Jo,

Based on second hand reports on Jon and Myla’s kids, the greater/harder challenge for parents who want to honor sovereignty and nurture independence is to still hold the parenting role and reins pretty firmly. Otherwise, the kids too often end up pretty demanding and bratty with an overblown sense of unappealing entitlement.

I don’t expect that will be a problem for you or Tim. You’re from New Jersey, afterall! ;-)

Best,

Mark

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