Category: mind and body

What’s the Hurry?

In college, I had a roommate from Wyoming. I loved her to pieces, but when it came to walking, she was Slow with a capital S. I was a “city” girl, destination-bound, with a quickness in my step. I walked with purpose, to get there fast. She, on the other hand, bounced her way down the sidewalk, in part I think, to irritate me. It worked.

My daughter is just at the age where she loves stepping out for a walk down our quiet little street. Together, we shuffle across the uneven pavement and explore nature’s toy box. Yesterday we watched the birds darting from tree to tree. We listened to water gurgling through the sewer. We pointed to big, fluffy clouds and cars passing by. We picked a few flowers (Don’t tell the neighbors.) and fingered the veins on leaves. We stomped across a patch of rocks and giggled as they crunched under our toes.

It was a grand buffet for the senses.

Maybe the tortoise is onto something. For years, I’d thought that slow was synonymous with purposeless. These days, I’d argue that the opposite is true. Because when you hurry about, you miss stuff. Stuff that stirs your blood and awakens your soul. You know, if we walked at the pace of a child, we’d see so much more of the world.

Okay, Miss Wyoming, you were right. Want to go for a walk? You lead.

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50 Days of Affirmations

We know our truth, but sometimes we need someone else to exclaim, “Girl, you’re amazing!”  A couple of years ago, I was inspired by the dynamic life coach and best-selling author, Debbie Ford, who challenged me to join in the Summer Self-Esteem Game.  

Here’s how it worked: First, I needed to choose a buddy, someone with whom I felt comfortable sharing my insecurities and fears.  Next, I invited her to join me in a 50-day challenge, where we would text, email, or phone messages that empowered each other to, as Debbie says, “blast through our limitations.” Thus, it was important to choose a buddy with whom I could honestly share those negative thoughts and beliefs that were keeping me from radiating my light.     

My youngest sister said YES to this challenge, and for 50 consecutive days we “blasted” each other with love.  Girl, you can’t beat that!  Here are some affirmations that we exchanged:    

*God doesn’t make junk.  I am good enough, just as I am.   

*I deserve to live with vast amounts of self-love and joy, beginning today.   

*I am a genius, and the challenge is to uncover the genius within my soul.   

*My ideas and opinions matter, and they reflect the kind and gentle person that I am.   

*I am a Goddess of Possibility.  I inspire others and help them to see that anything is possible.   

This was a powerful process for me.  It confirmed my belief that when we open ourselves up to vulnerability, we open ourselves up to deeper relationships and enduring self-love.  This summer, I challenge you to take the plunge and invite someone to be a part of your world.  Play the game.  You can’t lose.  I promise. But please . . .come back and tell us about it!       

P.S. Click HERE for Debbie Ford’s free affirmations.  

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It’s the Little Things . . .

I lose things . . .a lot.  The other day, I found an old lip gloss that I love, stashed in the pocket of Liza’s diaper bag. “Lost and Found” is my life; and now that I’m a mom, more seems to be lost than found, including my marbles.  My sister gave me this gloss over 8 years ago (Way past expiration, I know), and I fell in love with the color and light vanilla scent.   It’s called “Cutie Pie” by Bloom.  

I’m pretty low-maintenance- a minimalist, I would say- when it comes to beautifying.  I’ve had the same beauty routine since age 18, with the exception of additional under-eye concealer (Dark circles, I curse you!).  But a new, juicy lip gloss has the power to make my day.  A bit scary, but true.  I feel invigorated and delicious and fun!    

I’m not in the habit of wearing lipstick these days, mostly because my daughter is often poking at my face, squeezing my nose, tugging at my glasses, or twisting my lips.  But when I stumbled upon my old friend, I wiggled and twisted the wand applicator, determined to soak up every last bit of flirtatious fun.  Even though I wasn’t heading out on a hot date, I smeared it on, pursing and smacking my lips.  It was just for me, but even still, it felt good.  So good.  

Makeup does have a shelf life, but I just haven’t been able to part with this gloss.  What if I never find one as yummy?  Here’s the good news (for me): Bloom still makes “Cutie Pie,” and hell, I’m going to treat myself; it’s the little things that make life sweet.  

Here are some other things that have the power to make my day: fresh-squeezed lemonade, pedicures, homemade cards, flip-flops, a brilliant sunshine, a great book. 

What little thing (other than your kids) makes your day?  

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Experience the Spa at Home *Giveaway*

One month after Liza was born, a friend invited me to her home for some girl bonding.  I didn’t really want to go; I couldn’t squeeze into anything cute or stylish, and I felt ugly.  Besides, how can you feel good with leaky boobs?  C’mon.  Honestly.

But this girls’ night was different than others.  I was encouraged to dress in comfy clothes.  Check.  And the Evite said, “Don’t wear makeup.”  Check.  It turns out that I had been invited to experience the spa, right in someone’s home.  What woman can pass up quality girl time while soaking her feet?  We exfoliated and moisturized with delicious mango and peppermint scents.  And all the while, we laughed, really laughed, about our hairy legs, creeping lines, and imperfections.  It was just what I needed.

The party was given by Sensaria Representative, ML Banino, who was attracted to the company 3 years ago: “It’s a way for mothers to find sanity.  Using high quality, naturally-based spa products provides a daily ritual that helps moms feel better.”  

We all deserve to feel beautiful and whole.  That’s why this month I am giving away Sensaria’s Beach Scent Bundle (pictured below), a $60 value.  And, it’s just in time for Mother’s Day!   All you need to do is send a comment before April 30 for a chance to win.  The winner will be randomly selected using Random.org.  Good luck!  

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A Shower for Your Brain: Who Would Have Thought?

Since becoming a mom, bathing has taken on a whole different meaning.  It means fending off the stink with a quick washcloth wipe-down.  I bathe to get the job done.  I haven’t fogged up the bathroom mirror in ages.  No time for that.  There’s a little person standing at the side of the bathtub, launching her toys into the water, trying herself to dive in.  I now consider a shower (one that’s long enough to shave my legs) somewhat of a far-off luxury.  

As an educator, I always did my best thinking in the shower.  It was home to countless teaching “aha!” moments, and thus, scrapped lesson plans.  It was in a hot, steamy shower that the mental fog lifted.  I often thought God, why didn’t I think of this sooner?  The answer: I wasn’t in the shower.  

In the July 2008 issue of The New Yorker, Jonah Lehrer writes a fascinating article entitled, “The Eureka Hunt: Why do good ideas come to us when they do?”  He says that it is common for insight to come to us in a warm, relaxing shower. (If that’s really true, I’m doomed.) Lehrer believes that insights originate as a result of a flood of neural activity in the right side of the brain, and that we are best able to tap into that hemisphere when we are relaxed. 
I need a shower.  Maybe that’s why I can’t think straight, why I walk into the same room five times and can’t figure out why I’m there.  Although, to be honest, I’m not looking for an epiphany, just a few coherent thoughts.  As a mom, it’s a real challenge to find time to linger, to open ourselves up to possibility, to “aha!” moments.  While I can live with a little stink, maybe I’ve underestimated the value of a shower.  Perhaps my daughter is onto something.  She’s inviting me to dive in! (with her, of course.)
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Time for a “Staycation”

Do you ever find yourself saying, “I need a vacation”? I do it all the time. But for many Americans, a vacation isn’t in the cards right now. We’re living in some topsy-turvy, scary economic times. Our 401k’s are worth half of what they were 2 years ago, the market wavers more than a moody teenage girl, and frankly, we don’t know who to trust.

The other day, as I was recycling my junk mail, I fell upon the idea of a “staycation,” vacationing at home. I think the idea of a vacation is more of a mindset than anything else. You don’t have to be reclining under a palm tree to achieve a sense of calm (although that sounds really nice right now). A vacation is about waking up at your leisure, lollygagging about, and voluntarily shirking your responsibilities and obligations in exchange for some good old fashion family fun. Thanks, Clark W. Griswold.
In the beginning of April, my husband has a week off from school, and we’ve decided to go on a staycation for two days. Actually, I think it’s going to be quite a challenge. Many people, myself included, actually have a hard time relaxing in their own homes. We say, “I’ll relax when the _____ is done.” And so, we never relax, because there is always something to be done. It’s so easy to get sucked into the distractions and send that one last email. For me, this staycation will be about no rushing, no schedules, and no doing. Just being. (That’s why we’re called human beings, not human doings.)
Here are some ideas for a family “staycation”:
  1. Turn off the TV and rent a Disney flick or go to the movies.
  2. Take a family bike ride or hike.
  3. Play a board game or a card game together.
  4. Eat out at your favorite restaurant.
  5. Go to a children’s museum, aquarium, science center, or zoo.
  6. Make an ice cream sundae buffet.
  7. Unplug the phone, the computer, and the telephone.
  8. Give everybody a break from chores and responsibilities.
  9. Fly kites in an open field.
  10. Dust off the sleeping bags and have a slumber party- ghost stories included!
I haven’t yet decided how my family is going to spend our two days. We’re going to fly by the seat of our pants, but definitely kick back and just enjoy one another.  And hey, I can light a coconut-scented candle and put on some Banana Boat sunscreen to give it that “beach vacation” feel.
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Managing Your Life: One Thing at a Time


Every time I blink, it seems that my daughter is another half-inch taller, learning and growing and discovering the world.  Life’s too short to miss out on pointing to the birds or “choo-chooing” when the train whistles through our town.  Still, it’s hard to ignore that little voice in my head that’s obsessing over dirty dishes, dirty toilets, and dirty laundry (Life would be so much sweeter without dirt!).  As a mom, it’s hard to find that middle ground without beating yourself up over the leftover scrambled eggs, now glued to the plate, from this morning’s breakfast.  

Sometimes my mental to-do lists are so long, that I do nothing.  I’m literally incapacitated by my seemingly insurmountable lists.  And so I ruminate, wishing I didn’t care so darn much about the unimportant stuff.  These days, I am learning to think smaller.  I recently discovered a one-item list notepad (Yup, that’s it!), and it’s absolutely perfect for a mom like me, not to mention a lot less daunting.  It reads, “I will do one thing today.” How liberating!  Now I can breathe.  The sun is shining.  The birds are singing.  I’m off to the park!  
Visit Pretty Bitter to order a pad for yourself.  You deserve to feel empowered!
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